6 SIGNS SOMEONE IS SECRETLY JEALOUS OF YOU
You feel it everywhere. In your social circle, at work, and sometimes even at your place of worship. When you begin to experience fame, success, financial advantages, or just start living a happier and more fulfilling life, you will attract other people’s admiration but you may also spark feelings of jealousy from those around you. When jealousy goes unnoticed or ignored, it can become toxic behavior that can transform your friendships and relationships so drastically.
If you suspect that your friend is jealous of you and you notice any of the signs we’re about to mention, then you may need to start distancing yourself.
THEY TURN FUN AND GAMES UNTO COMPETITION: If your friend is fond of turning a fun game into a competition, trying to show off their talent or skills by undermining yours, then that person is definitely jealous of you. They turn everything into a battle and may even desperately play dirty to win. They want to make you look weak in the eyes of other people.
THEY TRY TO DOWNPLAY YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS: When someone tries to make themselves better by downplaying your success, they are most certainly jealous of you. They may associate your achievement by associating it with things other than your skill by saying things such as “She only got promoted because she sucks up to the boss.”
THEY GOSSIP AND SPREAD RUMORS ABOUT YOU: When someone enjoys gossiping and spreading rumors about you, they are jealous of you. A jealous person will always create trouble for you and try to make people dislike you. They start spreading lies about you to others in an attempt to change how others perceive you.
THEY ARE OBSESSED WITH YOU: When someone always keeps tabs on everything you do or everything that’s happening in your life as far as work, personal relationships, and education, then that person may be the green-eyed monster. Sometimes, they even reach out to other people to see how you're doing in life if you two aren’t communicating.
THEY WILL START COMPARING YOUR LIVES AND START FLAUNTING THEIR ACHIEVEMENTS IN YOUR FACE:: Jealous people usually love to compare your accomplishments to theirs. They often have a low self image of themselves and it’s their way of proclaiming that they are just as good, if not better than you. This is unhealthy competition at its finest.
THEY EMULATE YOU: Even though psychology believes that copycat behavior is a manifestation of one’s admiration and a sign of flattery, this is not the same with jealous people. When someone is jealous of you, they try to copy your behavior and style, such as the way you dress, the way you walk, and even the way you talk.
THEY LIKE IT WHEN YOU MAKE A MISTAKE OR FAIL: When someone always tells you “I told you so” after an occurrence of loss or failure, then that person might be jealous of you and are more than likely always happy when you experience a setback.
What To Do?
IF you find that you have a friend or someone close to you who is jealous of you, and you value the relationship enough to attempt to salvage it, call them and let them know how you feel. Listen attentively, and gauge their response. Most people won’t admit to this out of embarrassment or if they're overly driven by pride and ego. Explain to them that their actions make you feel like you can’t trust them. Watch out for changes, and if there is none, cut them off because honestly your better off without them and that negative energy lingering around in your circle.
